You wouldn’t get your car fixed at the hardware store, would you? That’s what you’re doing when you decide in individual therapy to end your marriage. The guys at the counter at the hardware store are super helpful when you want to choose a paint color or need just the right LED bulb. Mention your…Read more
Learn How to Stay Married
Chances are you don’t know how to be married. I know I didn’t when we first tied the knot, and decades later I keep learning and practicing. It’s the only way. Many people think marriage should come naturally if you’ve chosen the right person. But getting accurate expectations and learning the skills of intimate communication…Read more
How To Handle Marriage & Life Transitions Together
Marriage counseling is helpful when your relationship is in trouble, but in my Manhattan marriage counseling practice I find that many couples discover it’s invaluable as they head toward a major life transition. Looking forward to the birth of your first child? Is the empty nest around the corner? Wondering about life together in retirement? Life…Read more
Beautiful in the broken places
The Japanese art of kintsugi offers a lovely metaphor for human growth and relationship repair. Broken pottery is repaired with gold-dusted lacquer, creating gold seams in place of the original cracks. The resulting piece is more beautiful than the original. Kintsugi (“joined with gold”) may have originated in the late 14th century when shogun Ashikaga…Read more
“I’m Not In Love With You Anymore”
Just heard these words from your partner? Feeling this way yourself? Either way, it’s a pivotal moment. Whether you’re scared, or sad, or resigned, know that even though it feels like doom for your relationship, this sentence offers you the opportunity to breathe new life into it. Falling out of love doesn’t need to be a…Read more
