You’re not alone. Here are two ways to get help.
I often work with people who are uncomfortable seeing a therapist, or who have serious doubts about the value of marriage counseling. Often they fear that couples therapy is the first step toward the end of a marriage. Or they worry one partner will be targeted as the source of all problems.
In my office, they discover something different. As a marriage-friendly therapist, I understand those concerns and see counseling as an opportunity for couples to build understanding and enjoy each other. I work hard to help partners learn ways to turn around their relationship and create a marriage that will nourish both of them in the years ahead.
Individual therapy with a therapist who understands individual growth in the context of relationships can also be a path to a stronger, more satisfying marriage or relationship.
Sometimes, through a one-on-one connection with a therapist, you can develop a stronger sense of yourself and discover that you are better equipped to relate to your partner in new ways. And particularly if your partner is unable or reluctant to try couples counseling, then individual therapy offers an opportunity for you to understand and create change in the relationship.