Stop fighting. Enjoy each other again.
Worn down by sarcasm, fighting, or stony silences? Missing the old warmth and affection? Arguing about sex, money, in-laws? Struggling with the aftermath of infidelity? Don’t wait until it’s too late.
With the help of an active, solution-focused marriage counselor or couples therapist, you and your partner can rediscover joy and connection. In online marriage counseling or couples therapy sessions using my secure video platform, you can build a strong, honest, mutually supportive relationship and sustain it for the rest of your lives.
Couples often come to see me after a near-disaster with marriage counseling. “Our last therapist asked us to talk about our feelings and sat there while we fought,” they tell me. The way I see it, you can do that at home for free. I don’t just sit back while you argue.
Starting couples therapy right the first time can make all the difference. There’s no substitute for experience.
New York Couples Therapy That Works
Today’s marriage and couples counselors have access to an abundance of up-to-date research and practical tools to teach partners how to restore trust, connection, and romance in a relationship. There’s no excuse for a passive or chaotic process. That said, an experienced therapist won’t try to plug you into a cookie-cutter approach, either.
An active therapist creates a structured process unique to your needs; she or he will listen carefully, respect each of your individual viewpoints, and nurture and support your growth as a couple.
With the help of a skilled marriage counselor or couples therapist, you can learn new, more effective ways to speak and listen to each other.
- Stressed out? Learn to carve out a nurturing, pleasurable space for each other in the midst of your busy week.
- Discover how to transform your arguments into opportunities to manage conflict and work as a team.
- After an affair, work toward healing the hurt and rebuilding commitment and trust.
Most of all, learn to recognize what makes things go wrong, change the old patterns, and create the intimate, loving relationship you want. Today’s relationships are growing and changing, but our longings for love, trust, and understanding are timeless.
Therapy to Heal Your Marriage
I’m a member of Marriage Friendly Therapists, an advanced practitioner network featured in USA Today, National Public Radio, and the Harvard Mental Health Letter. The network is listed as a resource by the National Extension Relationship and Marriage Education Network, funded by the federal government, for couples who need marriage counseling. Here’s what they wrote: “The National Registry of Marriage Friendly Therapists was developed to help marriages by linking couples with the most highly qualified therapists in the country.
What’s different about marriage counseling and couples therapy with me?
- Active coaching and skill-building. Talking about your relationship to a stranger –even a trained and experienced professional — takes courage. You deserve a therapist who works in partnership to support your relationship 100 percent. I stay current and draw on the groundbreaking work of researchers such as John Gottman, Terry Real and Sue Johnson.
- The support you need. Between sessions, if you’re overwhelmed or need support to build on what we’ve talked about in session, I provide a secure link through my practice portal and encourage you to stay in touch. That “safety net” has been demonstrated to prevent marital meltdowns and keep you on track to reach your goals.
- Experience. After over 20 years in this profession, I have helped hundreds of couples and partners build successful, intimate relationships. You need more than a therapist with a playbook. Married for over 25 years myself, I know how much couples benefit from down-to-earth mentoring and long-term perspective.
- Marriage friendliness. Marriage isn’t easy. If you start our work blaming your partner for all your relationship problems, you’re likely to discover that the situation is more complicated. Marriage offers so many opportunities for growth. It takes a lifetime to build a marriage, and we are all learning all the time. That’s why I’m the last person in the room to give up on your marriage. I’ve helped couples from across the country and around the globe.
Read my post Hitting The Wall in Your Marriage for an understanding of how marriages develop over time. Our struggles point the way to growth.
Not sure you want to start marriage or couples therapy? Wondering about divorce?
Discernment counseling offers a careful, research-based approach to help you gain confidence and clarity about the next step.