Or what’s the difference between a happy marriage and a Volvo? Hope you’ll take a look at my latest post on the Slow Marriage blog and find the answer. Hint: it has something to do with pioneering research on flow. .
A wife doesn’t make a life; a couple does. Reading Judith Warner’s The Opt-Out Generation Opts Back In in Sunday’s New York Times, I wondered about the thousands of pivotal moments missing from the article. I’m talking about the quick chat over morning coffee, a glass of wine together while kids do homework, or late-night pillow…Read more
If you liked The 4-Hour Work Week but still have a regular job, listen up: You’re spending way too little time on vacation. Some of the most stressed-out people I know weekend in lovely settings out east or down the shore. They remind me of prize fighters who retreat to the corner of the ring for a quick…Read more
Baz Luhrmann’s “The Great Gatsby” got me thinking about what makes a soulmate. Picking out Daisy’s green light at the end of his dock, Gatsby has “orgastic” dreams of romping “like the mind of God,” of listening to “the tuning-fork that had been struck upon a star.” Daisy, in Gatsby’s mind, is his soulmate. She catches…Read more
Julia and Jack (all name and details disguised here) looked like a couple with a bright future: two attractive, successful thirty-year-olds who had been thoroughly enjoying their engagement when they came to me for premarital counseling. We worked on communication and conflict-management skills and I sensed that they were eager to learn and willing to…Read more